If Time Heals, Then Why Don't I Feel Better?
Updated: Mar 14
Feeling Different is not the same as feeling Better.
I say this from a place of love and personal experience. 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐃𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥.
I distinctively remember going to my grief therapist week after week asking, “When will I feel better?” and “When will my pain go away?”
“In Time.” He replied. “You just have to give it time.”
“How much time? A week, a month, a year?!!!”
I was desperate in knowing the timeframe because my grief was consuming me, and it was debilitating. As days turned into months, I had some good days, and I started to feel 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵, but then I would have days or moments where I’d fall to my knees in despair, and I was unable to get out of bed. Time seemed to make my grief worsen, and the pain and heartache intensify. The once grief bubble that protected me had vanished, and when my raw feelings of grief surfaced out of the blue without warning, it knocked me on my A$$!
We have been taught to believe that time will heal all wounds. When we have encountered losses within our lifetime, friends, family, and caring individuals have whispered this notion to us to give comfort. The Grief Recovery Method has indicated that this is one of the myths of grief and loss - that time will heal. I must conquer. Not only from my participation in The Grief Recovery Method Program, but first hand after losing my husband and father.
My therapist was unable to tell me how much time it would take to help heal my heart from my grief and loss. IF time really did heal, wouldn’t this medical professional be able to tell me?
Time Does Not Heal. Actions Do.
The Grief Recovery Method is an action-based methodology and evidence-based program that gently guides you through the necessary steps to heal your emotional pain. These strategic steps give you the tools to not only heal you from your grief, but assist you in your future losses.